At my sister’s wedding dinner my dad introduced me to the groom’s family and said ‘This is our daughter… she makes a living cleaning toilets.’ My mom sighed and added, ‘We stopped expecting anything from her a long time ago.’ The groom’s mother slowly tilted her head, studying my face, then murmured, ‘Hold on… aren’t you the woman who—’

My sister Vanessa’s wedding dinner took place in a private room at a steakhouse just outside Denver—the kind of place with dim amber lighting, polished silverware, and waiters who moved as if they were gliding across ice. Every table was dressed in ivory linen, every wineglass gleamed, every centerpiece of white roses and eucalyptus arranged so perfectly it felt like someone had edited reality until it looked worthy of approval. I had come straight from work, though I’d showered, changed into a navy dress, and done my makeup in the staff restroom before driving over. Even so, I felt like I had carried the entire day with me into that room.